WHEN YOUR CHURCH FAILS YOU

Touchy subject, but it needs to be addressed. For the record, I am a heterosexual, married woman.

In this 21^st century of recognizable human existence, most, or at least a lot of civilized countries, even churches recognize the common sense of legalizing marriage between human beings no matter what the sexual preference.

YIKES! An attack on God!!!

No, just on small-minded sects and people. A church I used to attend won’t even allow a Blessing of Union [not necessarily the national church, but one particular parish]. We’re not talking about a real marriage ceremony, but just a declaration of love between two people. Does it get more small minded than that?

I confronted the rector about it asking why we weren’t embracing this ceremony. I was told there are people in the church that would be upset about it.

And why you may ask? Economics. Generally, old people have more money to support the church and those same people are afraid of everything, especially anyone different than they are.

A bit harsh, you say? I don’t make the rules; I just report on what I see.

Why, you may ask… again. It seems that 30 years earlier they discovered that their rector was GAY! Oh the horror! Sure, everyone loved him right up until they discovered his dirty little secret.  No understanding, no acceptance; only condemnation, and they’ve held on to it for 30 freakin’ years, and stuck in the judgmental dark ages.

Yes, things are better for Gays than in the 60’s, but BIG WHOOP! It’s not enough. I am for equal rights for ALL, with no qualifications or exceptions.

But what about…. you say. NO EXCEPTIONS. Yeah, it’s sometimes hard to adhere to, but try it; you will be a better person for it.

Peace and Equality for all

WHAT MAKES a GOOD MARRIAGE?

I’m not a half-full, half-empty kinda’ woman. I’m more of a ‘is it filling up or emptying out, kinda’ woman… but I digress.

Old men with young women. Is it possibly love, or is it money, security… or a father fixation, possibly?

I’m not saying; just asking. With REALLY rich, old guys, it is love. Love of money, security and status. LOL! Come on, a little honesty please!

A rich man is easier to love than a dirt-poor man. Its common sense, as well as human nature.  Every time some girl married a rich, old dude, who reading this hasn’t had the fleeting thought: she’ll be set for life, I wonder what the pre-nup says, or at least he’ll die with a smile on his face… Crude, rude but all too true.

I knew one couple; a man of 50 married a girl 25. He wasn’t rich, good looking or particularly smart, but he was about his fathers height, weight and they both came from a Navy background. I’m hot making any assumptions, only reporting the facts as I know them.

She really seemed to love him. Oh yeah, one more thing: He was extremely controlling and she was more of a slave than a wife.

In the day, a wedding was ‘love, honor and obey’. Yet women made these promises without as much as a thought. Then came the 60’s! Thank God, those days are gone except for some… repressive religious faiths. Those same faiths where women believe it’s a woman’s purpose and duty to bow to the ‘head of the family’ and never question his decisions…. Yeah.

If this concept works for you, you might want to stop reading this blog. This blog is intended for the rest of the sisterhood.

What is the freakin’ point of any relationship that is not built on equality and mutual respect? For me, there is no point.

I don’t buy that a man needs to control his wife, because he respects her and wants to protect her. Bullshit. They are not the same thing. Respect is simply, esteem and admiration.

Marriage should be between two consenting adults [men/women, men/men, women/women] living together in love, with mutual goals.

Too easy? Yes, as it should be. In the end, it’s all about love. And real Love is hard to come by.

Peace!