WHAT MAKES a GOOD MARRIAGE?

I’m not a half-full, half-empty kinda’ woman. I’m more of a ‘is it filling up or emptying out, kinda’ woman… but I digress.

Old men with young women. Is it possibly love, or is it money, security… or a father fixation, possibly?

I’m not saying; just asking. With REALLY rich, old guys, it is love. Love of money, security and status. LOL! Come on, a little honesty please!

A rich man is easier to love than a dirt-poor man. Its common sense, as well as human nature.  Every time some girl married a rich, old dude, who reading this hasn’t had the fleeting thought: she’ll be set for life, I wonder what the pre-nup says, or at least he’ll die with a smile on his face… Crude, rude but all too true.

I knew one couple; a man of 50 married a girl 25. He wasn’t rich, good looking or particularly smart, but he was about his fathers height, weight and they both came from a Navy background. I’m hot making any assumptions, only reporting the facts as I know them.

She really seemed to love him. Oh yeah, one more thing: He was extremely controlling and she was more of a slave than a wife.

In the day, a wedding was ‘love, honor and obey’. Yet women made these promises without as much as a thought. Then came the 60’s! Thank God, those days are gone except for some… repressive religious faiths. Those same faiths where women believe it’s a woman’s purpose and duty to bow to the ‘head of the family’ and never question his decisions…. Yeah.

If this concept works for you, you might want to stop reading this blog. This blog is intended for the rest of the sisterhood.

What is the freakin’ point of any relationship that is not built on equality and mutual respect? For me, there is no point.

I don’t buy that a man needs to control his wife, because he respects her and wants to protect her. Bullshit. They are not the same thing. Respect is simply, esteem and admiration.

Marriage should be between two consenting adults [men/women, men/men, women/women] living together in love, with mutual goals.

Too easy? Yes, as it should be. In the end, it’s all about love. And real Love is hard to come by.

Peace!

WHAT YOUNG WOMEN FEAR: Aging…

Sabertooth does not equal Bitch.

It means intelligent, proud and confident; working to teach younger women

NOT to fear the inevitable aging process…..

As a young women in my twenties I was hot, just like most women in their twenties, and I didn’t fear anything. I knew I’d take care of myself and wouldn’t let the whole sagging and wrinkle thing happen to me. No sir; not me!

In my thirties, I was still hot, but it took a bit more exercise to maintain the look.

In my forties, still hot for my age, but requiring more sleep, and a lot more exercise.

In my fifties, it suddenly was different. I was extremely healthy, so I didn't fear the diaper thing, or wheelchair, but the sagging and wrinkles were not in my plan. I am NOT vain, but I do want to take care of myself and if I can maintain my muscle tone and skin appearance, I want to do it.

For me, plastic surgery is out of the question. It scares the hell out of me. Just look at some of your favorite movie stars with regrets… So I started searching for an alternative, and found it quite by accident.

As a Sabertooth [kitty, not gut-ripper] I’ve learned many simple yet effective things that shouldn’t be secrets. And we will explore my absolute favorite in future blogs.

 

Pass along ALL valuable information you come across, my sisters! Pass it on!

Like Butterfly Hunting with a Bazooka...

“That’s ridiculous,” you say. “Don’t use more firepower [if any at all] than you have to”, and you’d be correct.

                  

Okay, so how about taking the simplest project that should require a simple Run Book, with combined forms (covering all that is needed, of course), and turning it into a cacophony of templates that contain mostly headers and little else. IT’S NOT NEEDED!! Quality = fit for intended use. That’s it – nothing more.

So, what’s got me so pissed today? If you've read just about any recent Project Management article, and unless you have a $250 million project, everyone is mandating redundancy upon redundancy when it comes to documentation.

What’s happened to the fun in project management? The laughing, teasing, story telling, the swearing?  What’s happened to the PM documenting everything that’s needed and no more? Since do PM’s have to use tons of fluff for the sake of ‘look at me, aren’t I great?’ What a sad state of affairs.

Don’t tell me that doesn’t happen. A while back (less than a hundred years) I was looking at a colleague’s Run Book, (always looking for best practices) when I realized that all the forms were there and each one contained one or two lines.

Well now, that’s a bunch of bullshit and a big waste of paper!

So, in looking into the project itself, it was barely medium and a straight up endeavor.

So why all the fluff? Because it looked good on his book shelf with the other Run Books, when in reality, all he needed was about thirty (30) pages; he turned it into a three (3) inch thick binder.

So, what’s my point, you may well ask? When you document your project, make it FIT FOR USE (quality) and not something useless that perhaps makes you look good, until someone (like me) really looks at it. <evil grin>

And yes, I discussed the whole thing with the other PM and he was shocked, I tell you; shocked!

“Well, excuse me for being thorough!” he huffed.

“It’s bullshit and you know it,” I smiled.

“How would you have changed it?” he asked with his chin held high.

“I’d do away with all the cumbersome mostly blank forms and combine them as paragraphs into a document called: Project Management Plan.”

Dead silence as his eyebrows twitched. “It looks more substantial my way.”

“The SOX auditor comes in next week, you know. Let me know what she says.”

Then suddenly, he asked me to sit with him a bit and go over his books…. before next week.

Ah, good times….. good times.